Updated: Aug 3, 2021
Yes, you read that right - Full Time Job!
So many people roll their eyes on reading that a stay-at-home mom is a "full time job".
"She clearly doesn't know what a full-time job means! She has probably never worked in the real world and then come home to do household chores!"
And there are so many sighs of relief too.
"Finally someone understands!"
Earlier the moms who chose to go to work were reprimanded constantly!
"She doesn't care about her kids. She is never around for them!"
But over the years, the tables seem to have turned.
I keep hearing about the comments that stay-at-home moms have to listen to, whether from their spouse, their in-laws, their family or their friends.
Comments filled with envy..
"Oh, you don't work? How lucky, you have so much time on hand."
"I just can't sit at home. It's such an idle life."
And some which make the listener feel useless..
"I can't make it today. Some people 'work' you know!"
Yes, of course there are some stay at home moms, who are at home but not present with their kids. There are cases where the kids are either looked after by the maid/nanny or grandparents or left to fend for themselves. But that is not necessarily the case with all stay at home moms, and especially those who "choose" to be home for the kids, who choose to be a home-maker. For them, it is a full-time job! In fact, for moms who go to work, isn't it sometimes easier to leave the house and go to work, rather than face the tantrums of a child or the non stop banter in the house? The workplace provides a refreshing change of environment and the opportunity to meet like minded people. Many also use work as a form of escapism from their daily lives, consciously or subconsciously.
And of course, some moms work because they don't have an option; they need to contribute to the family finances. And for those who have a choice, some choose to have a career while others prefer staying at home, to look after their home and their kids. And BOTH choices are FINE! There is none that is better or worse, right or wrong. And both are equally exhausting and demanding roles! So nobody, absolutely nobody, has the right to judge or belittle either of the choices! We need to learn to respect and support their decisions, as well as appreciate the efforts that need to be made in both cases.
Whether a mom chooses to be a career woman or a home maker, she is following her heart; her own path. And as long as she is creating value for herself and others, she deserves nothing less than a huge round of applause!