12 parenting tips to support for all the fabulous dads who are already doing a great job!
The fact that you are reading this proves that! :)
“What do I do with a three-year-old who's grabbing my trouser leg just as I am on an important call?” 'I am really not in the mood to play house-house or hide and seek or football after a long, hard day at work.' 'I can’t watch cartoons after an exhausting day at work. I need to watch the news and my cricket match. Why doesn't anyone understand?!” 'How am I going to get this adamant child to eat his food? I have no patience for these things.' 'Shouldn't all this be handled by the mom? Isn’t it her domain? I am so lost most times as to what to do!' The last one almost sounds like a wail for help! Doesn't it? Yes, Fatherhood isn't easy either. Well, to make it clear - it isn't meant to be easy, but it is definitely meant to be a life-changing experience, giving you some of the most precious moments of your life! :)
Here are a few tips to remove the struggle in your journey of fatherhood and to help you become an even more awesome dad than, what I am sure, you already are!!
1. Spend Time with Your Child How much time a father spends with his children tells them how important they are to him. Spend a minimum of 15 minutes every day, having FUN with your children on a one on one basis. Find something that both of you enjoy, be it a sport, board games, laughing together, tickling, dancing, painting, reading, roughhousing- absolutely anything that is ‘fun’ for both of you! Remember, filling their cupboards with toys and other material things will not help in building that bond; spending time together is what will get you closer to your child and strengthen your relationship.
2. Respect your Children Talk politely to your children. It is very important for us to respect them if we want them to respect us. Listening to them when they are talking, not interrupting their conversations, allowing them to make some of their own decisions, all go a long way in showing respect. 3. Communication is Important Talk to your children. Talk about their day-to-day routines and tell them about yours. Be aware of your child's life, get to know their friends, the activities they do, their hobbies, and their interests. Get to really “know” your children. 4. Don't just hear, LISTEN! When children talk, listen! What they are saying is very important to them. Don't jump in and start giving advice. Take the time to just listen and try to understand the feelings behind their words. When they talk, be fully present. Keep the newspaper aside, switch off the television, put your mobile on silent. Maintain eye contact and give them your undivided attention. This will tell your children how important they are to you. It will go a long way in increasing their self-esteem and also set the stage for more meaningful conversations, as your child grows older. Though if your child wants to talk to you at one of those times when you are really busy, don't stress. Assure them that you will be with them once you are done. Fix up a time -- it could be half an hour later – or even by the day. Just make sure to make the time to follow through with it. 5. Teach and Encourage
Very often fathers feel that teaching is something their spouse or the school has to do – be it something concrete as learning how to use the computer or play a game or imparting values and teaching right from wrong. But a father who spends time teaching his children in every way, and encourages them to do their best, will see his children grow up believing in themselves and making correct choices in life. A father who is involved in his child’s daily routines will be able to impart the basic values of life through everyday examples. 6. Discipline with Love Every child needs guidance and discipline. This does not mean punishment, but setting reasonable limits. Discipline should always come from a place of love and the purpose of discipline is to teach the child responsible behaviour. Also keep in mind that as the child grows older, the freedom should be increased and the limits have to be reduced. Use positive forms of discipline such as logical consequences; wherein the consequence is connected to the misbehaviour. 7. Demonstrate your Love
Children need the security of being loved and accepted by their families. Showing affection is a wonderful way to demonstrate the love you have for your child. Hug them, kiss them, cuddle them and be there for them at all times.Let them know they have your unconditional love and support. This will strengthen the parent-child bond and also ease the discipline and communication process 8. Respect your Child's Mother One of the best things a father can do for his children is to respect their mother. If you are married, keep your marriage strong. Show your love and affection for your spouse. Whe